cleaning with ADHD is a nightmare. it’s an endless cycle of finding a half-finished chore and stopping the one you were already working on, then remembering that something else needs to be done and getting started on that, then finding half-finished chore and
i have the solution! i call it ‘junebugging’.
have you ever seen a junebug get to grips with a window screen? it’s remarkably persistent, but not very focused. all that matters is location.
how to junebug: choose the location you feel you can probably get some shit done on today. be specific. not ‘the bathroom’ but ‘the bathroom sink’. you are not choosing a range, you are choosing a center; you will move around, but your location is where you’ll keep coming back to. mentally stick a pin in it. consider yourself tethered to that spot by a long mental bungee cord.
go to your location. look at stuff. move stuff around. do a thing. get distracted. remember you’re junebugging the bathroom sink and go back there. look at it some more. do a different thing. get distracted. get a sandwich. remember you’re junebugging and go back to the bathroom sink.
nt’s will go crazy watching you, and if they demand to know When You Will Be Done you will probably have to roll them in a carpet and stuff them up the chimney. you’re done when you feel done, or you’re too bored to live, or it’s bedtime, or any number of other markers, you get to pick. but the thing is, by returning repeatedly to that one spot, you harness the ‘hyperactivity’ part instead of wasting all that energy battling with the ‘attention deficit’ part.
not only will the bathroom sink almost certainly be clean, and probably the mirror and soap dish too, you might’ve swapped in a fresh toothbrush, a new soap, you might’ve unclogged the drain – you will probably also have cleaned or fixed up several things in the near vicinity, or in the path between the sink and where you get the fresh toothbrush, or maybe you did your grocery shopping cuz you were out of soap, or maybe you couldn’t find a clean hand towel and ended up doing laundry.
this is good. you got shit done! it wasn’t necessarily Cleaned The Bathroom in the way nt’s think of it, but screw ‘em. things are better than they were.
plus you worked off enough energy to be able to sleep. which is not small potatoes when living the ADHD life. 😀
Don’t let the adorable name fool you—this is some Seriously Good Advice. May be useful for brain fog and depression, too!
aaaaa i haven’t seen a post like this before so i figured i’d make my own? i hope a few people would find this useful cuz i don’t think everyone knows yet! anyway here we go:
Anything between 300-539 pixels width will be stretched to 540!
So 299 is the magic number to avoid tumblr blowing up your reaction images! What I also do is just set my canvas to 540 pixels and draw within that, if I think 299 pixels will be too small.
Of course, this only applies to the website and not the mobile app.
THAT’S why I NEVER throw out my copics. Like. Some of them already got refilled because I am a greedy bastard when it comes to money (I’ve got a kid and a cat and don’t have much money a month). So either you refill the color, or if your marker just is a little dried out, put some alcohol into them. It’s ABSOLUTELY worth it!
Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?
If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?
I know this one! Or, at least, I know a way to do it, because I’ve done it.
1) When you call them up (or email them, which I prefer, because PHONE, EW), you ask if they’re taking new patients.
2) If they say yes, say something along the lines of “Great! I’m looking for a new therapist. Would it be possible for me to schedule an appointment so we can see whether we’d be a good fit for one another?”
IF THEY SAY NO, THEY DON’T DO ‘INTERVIEWS’: they’re a dick, you don’t want them anyway, don’t bother to make an appointment
3) Assuming everything is a go, head over to the appointment. Bring your notebook, pen, and questions. Also, if possible, have a very brief rundown prepared of what you’d like to accomplish with your therapy (or even what you think your biggest issues are).
4) Introduce yourself. Reiterate that you want to see if the two of you would be a good fit, so [a nice little social laugh or smile here, while holding up your notebook] you brought questions.
IF THEY DON’T LIKE THAT: they’re a dick, you don’t want them anyway, cut the meeting short
5) Give the rundown of what you want, what your issues are, whatever. See how they react.
IF YOU FEEL WEIRD AT ALL ABOUT THEM: they may not be a dick, but if you don’t feel comfortable with them, then it’s going to be a shit therapeutic relationship
6) Ask your questions — about their therapeutic approach, why they entered the field, whether they feel comfortable working with *your* needs (I, for instance, specifically told my awesome therapist that I needed her to tell me absolutely nothing about her personal life or experiences — as much as possible, I needed a blank wall to bounce things off of. It’s been years now, and I THINK she’s seen at least a couple of episodes of Doctor Who. I THINK. That’s all I’ve got. It’s amazing).
AGAIN, IF YOU FEEL WEIRD ABOUT THEM: go with your gut — your therapy is not the time or place to try and soldier through
7) By this point, you’ve probably hit the 45 minute mark, and you’ll know if you want to see this person again.
IF YES, say that this was a really great meeting, and you’d like to set up a regular appointment.
IF NO, say “Thanks for meeting with me.” If it wasn’t too terrible, feel free to add in whatever social niceties you want to lessen the blow (“I have appointments with a few other people, still, but thank you again!”), or you could just skedaddle as soon as possible.
IF YOU’RE NOT SURE, go a bit heavier with the social nicety: “I still have appointments with a few other people, but I really enjoyed our meeting. I’ll let you know as soon as possible if I’d like to schedule another one. Thanks again!”
Regarding current therapists: If they’re toxic, get rid of ‘em before you even start interviewing others. Nobody needs that kind of garbage. Otherwise, you could keep seeing them while you interview others, and then the second you find one you like (and you schedule your next appointment), get rid of your current one. You don’t have to say why — just say that you’d like to cancel future appointments. Do it over email, if you want. If you like them, you can tell them that you just need something different now, but that you “really appreciate all the work we’ve done together” or something. If you don’t like them, just cancel. They don’t need to know jack.
IF YOUR CURRENT THERAPIST SAYS SHIT ABOUT YOUR LEAVING — and I mean anything other than a positive hope for you in the future — then they were a dick and you were right to find someone else. Who needs passive-aggressive bullshit from a therapist? Nobody, that’s who.
So that’s my philosophy/style with regard to therapist shopping — I may be completely wrong, but it’s worked for me so far. Good luck!
I was looking at methods of keeping notebooks organised and I came across a really interesting blog post (source) that I want to share with you all. All of the pictures in this post come directly from the original blog post.
Make your entry into your notebook. In the example
photographs, they have recorded a Chinese recipe.
Go to the back of the notebook and add a tag or title, e.g. “Chinese”
on the left edge of the page.
Go back to the first page where the entry was, and on the
same line number as you wrote “Chinese” make a black mark on the edge. You make
this mark so that even when the notebook is closed, the mark is visible. After
repeating this for various recipes, you now have various tags visible on the
notebooks edge.
If you ever wanted to find a Chinese recipe, you simply look
at the index, locate the label, and look along the visible edge which has been
tagged as Chinese. Then just flick to each marked page.
You’re not limited to one tag per page. You
could tag a page 2 or 3 times. So if you jot down a chicken stir fry you could
tag it as “Chicken” and “Chinese”.
This could be very useful for organizing an Inspiration journal! Tag ideas for names, plots, titles, character bios, etc.!
Oh man there’s a lot, most of which you’ll be able to learn from any good scriptwriting workshop or book, but personally I would say the most important thing to remember is that (unless you’re hiring an artist), YOU will be the one drawing it all out eventually, so you really, really have to make something that excites you in some way.
Comics take a long time to make. Something that takes a paragraph to convey in prose can take an entire page. A background detail that could be said with one written sentence and then carried in the reader’s visual memory actually has to be drawn out, repeatedly, from multiple different angles. You’ll most likely draw the same faces, over and over, potentially for many years depending on the length of your project.
This isn’t to put you off! I believe the payoff is absolutely worth it – visual storytelling brings another entire level and even though it can be a tough road, having the ability to speak with more than words is extremely beautiful and cool imo.
I guess it’s kind of a waffly way to say: make sure whatever you’re making excites you in some way!! That doesn’t mean it needs to be super thrilling page-turning adventure or a murder mystery. There are many ways you could make a comic project exciting for yourself:
Research scenery that you love and use it for settings
Use an experimental art style
Challenge and push yourself with framing, layout, visual storytelling
Spend a lot of time with your characters outside the story, learn about them
Figure out what’s important to you, and how you could convey that to readers
Figure out what the POINT of your comic is. It doesn’t have to be a huge moral thesis, but for example if the point is just to show a peaceful slice of life, remember that
Think about why you were excited about the story in the first place
Because they are SUCH long term projects, a lot of comic writers/makers will have some times where they aren’t excited by their creation as much and that’s pretty natural. But you can try to keep it as fresh and exciting as possible, and while writing think about what you’re going to enjoy drawing later.
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